I appreciate the opportunity to help partners express genuine feelings and concerns, while learning to really hear one another with greater clarity and compassion. As one partner of a couple said of their 7 year union, there are three sides to a situation: hers, his, and a truth that arises from their shared experience. I am delighted to work with couples whose truths are hers & hers, his & his, or hirs. I follow closely the values and approach of Dr. John Gottman, a leading researcher whose book, "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work," is extremely popular with couples, married or not!
Happily ever after is a fable that belongs in our childhood stories. The strongest relationships are built on friendship, trust, and a willingness to learn to do the dance of conflict without injuring each other's toes. Identifying, acknowledging, and accepting those 3 truths above, without blame or criticism or defensiveness, is a core aspect of couples' work together. A commitment to regular sessions and practice/reading/reflection between sessions are integral to the repair and healing of the relationship.